I DJ weekly at a place that has live bands play, usually within the soul and blues genres. The place has a dedicated dance floor, and I dance when I like the song and when there's someone I think I'd enjoy dancing with to that particular song (this is another shadow I need to shine some light on, but that's outside the scope of this particular entry). I've developed a fair amount of dance partnering skills over the years, and a lot of people have told me that they enjoy watching me (all right, I'll go there now - despite this, I'm hesitant to ask certain people to dance for a number of reasons I understand to be silly but it still is what it is), and I've also noticed when certain people watch me as well.
One such person was there last night. She's a singer with a band that performs there every month, and I've noticed her watch me as I dance. The band played a slow song featuring another member of the band as a vocalist, so she came off the stage and sat down in the audience. I approached her, and asked her if she'd like to dance. She said that she really appreciated me asking her as she'd watched me dance on numerous nights but she was afraid that she'd be a terrible partner. We chatted for a bit, during which time, she promised me that she'd dance with me the next time I asked her.
The point is that even though we both wanted the same thing - to dance with each other, letting fear win would have resulted in us never even exploring the possibility. But all it takes is one person lighting the first match to make the shadows go away - not just your own shadows, but other people's shadows as well.
This learned lesson reinforces the idea people are waiting for me to slay the dragon, even if it's one scale at a time.
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